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A Dreamabout Husband’s Ex Wife
I woke in the middle of the night from a dream about my husband, his ex-wife and me. We were all together and he keep standing up for her, defending her. At the end of the dream we were sitting at a table where she got up and walked over and began caressing his head, then pulled out a Hallmark card and said that he sends them to her all the time. I asked if he sent them in the past 5 years since we’ve been together, then woke up.
Main Life Issues:
Constantly dealing with the Ex. Not threatened by her just wonder if the relationship is really over.
It's a story of how someone notices how someone is nice to another and feels threatened by it, as if it is a betrayal.
Hallmark card: A symbol of someone being thoughtful and caring.
Husband defends ex: Metaphor that says it is okay to honor the past love that your husband had with his ex wife, it does not mean he loves you less.
What it Means:
You say you don’t feel threatened by the ex wife, but the dream says that you do feel threatened. Look at it this way. If the worst he was doing in the dream was sending her cards, that's pretty good. The bottom line is you'd prefer to be the only one getting his caring and thoughtfulness, but that's not the way it is.
The dream is inviting you to have a fresh look at his small acts of caring toward her. He sounds like a good man and human being. The good news is that he probably acts that way with you, too. If there are children involved with the ex (which is what generally keeps a bond going with an ex), the dream is telling you what he is doing as non-threatening and a good thing.
Bottom Line: If you can still your fears and possibly a bit of resentment and let him do the best he can, you'll feel better. From these dream images, there's nothing else going on.
Everything you said hits the nail on the head. There are children involved on both sides and it has not been an easy transition. What divorce and new marriage is?
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